Starting preschool is a big step for your child, and it’s natural for them (and you) to experience some anxious feelings. Common triggers for preschool anxiety include separation from parents, fear of the unknown, or new routines and new social settings. Some children may initially express clinginess, tantrums and saying they don’t want to go. They may also experience some physical symptoms such as a change in their sleep pattern and stomach aches. While it can feel distressing in the moment, these feelings are developmentally normal for their age. With a little preparation and encouragement, you can ease your preschooler’s anxiety and set them up for a positive early education experience.
1. Prepare Ahead of Time. Talk to your child about what preschool will be like. Read books and take a school tour together so they can familiarize themselves with the new environment. Have your child pick out something special for school such as their backpack or lunch bag that they’ll be excited to take with them.
2. Establish a School Routine. Before school starts, practice going to bed at the same time every night and waking up in time to get ready for school. Practice a morning routine like getting dressed and eating breakfast so you know how much time you’ll need before school. You can also have your child eat lunch at the time they’ll be eating lunch at school and practice opening and eating from their lunchbox.
3. Encourage Independence. Whether it’s hanging up their jacket, putting on shoes, or opening a lunch snack themselves, your child will need to do some things independently at school. Practice small things at home so you know what your child is capable of and what they may still need help with in the classroom.
4. Practice Goodbyes. Leave your child with a caregiver for small amounts of time so they can practice saying goodbye. You can also create a special hug, high-five or saying to incorporate into your goodbye routine.
5. Stay Calm and Confident. Talk positively about school and focus on the fun aspects. Let your child know it’s OK to feel nervous and offer reassurance. Try not to project any worries onto your child or show your own anxiety.
6. Have a School Plan. Work with your child’s teacher so you’re on the same page for a smooth morning drop-off or if your child gets upset midday. They may have you bring in a special stuffed animal or blanket from home or a family photo that your child can see if they’re feeling homesick during the day.