We recently watched “Yes Day” (super cute movie), starring Jennifer Garner, on Netflix and my daughters have been wanting their own “yes day” ever since. If you haven’t seen the movie or read the book, let me explain. A “yes day” is a day you say “yes” to everything your kids ask.
You might be thinking, “WHAT??? That’s crazy.”
You have to say yes to all their requests. Yep, you read that right. (Well, you do set some ground rules, but I’ll get to those later.) The whole sentiment is to help take the seriousness out of life for a bit. As parents, sometimes we find ourselves always saying no, being a little too serious, and forgetting to find ways to say yes and hope again! Especially with all that’s going on in the world, it’s easy to lose our childlike spirit.
So, how does it work? First, mom and dad set the ground rules. For instance, I had to say “yes” to all my daughters’ requests on the given day that were within our set of guidelines.
Here are our “yes day” ground rules (you can tweak to make them work best for you and your family):
– Request can’t affect the future
– Request can’t be illegal
– Request can’t make a mess
– Daily allowance for all requests can’t exceed $50
So, what did we end up doing? Here’s a glimpse at our non-stop day.
My daughters’ requests:
– Can we go to the bookstore and browse for a while? Yep.
– Can we go get Jeni’s ice cream for lunch? Yep.
– Can we go roller skating — and you have to skate, Mom?
– Can we go to the library and get books and read for a while?
– Can we go to the movies? Yep.
Let me tell you: You’ll never need coffee more than the day after a “yes day.” I was so exhausted! But I learned a big lesson, too. Letting loose and saying “yes” to things I normally would not have agreed with really taught me to enjoy life and enjoy the moment. I loved it because it’s a day to focus on the good and enjoy life. Sometimes you just gotta let loose and have a day of fun.
And let me tell you, it was a little scary at times. The first moment I put my foot on the roller rink floor, I thought for sure I was going to lose it. No way could I skate around the rink after 20 years; and with all these people watching?! Then my 10- year-old daughter grabbed my hand and told me she’d teach me again. And in the moment, I let the fear pass. Twenty minutes later, I was skating around the rink like I was 15 again.
I’m learning that it’s essential to find ways to have fun, hang on to hope, and lose the fear that sometimes clings to us. I’m certain a “yes day” will become an annual tradition in our family and I’d highly recommend you trying it with yours, too.
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